Watch the Throne

Ok so in this vlog, there were several men who gave their opinion of women and the motives behind the relationships that they form with women.  One man spoke on how he expected something from a women after a date and that he determined early on what kind of relationship that he wanted from a woman.  His attitude and demeanor made me wonder, where on earth did this man developed such a terrible mentality?  He made a comment about how women should be more responsible about the way they handle their bodies with men. But I found myself wondering, "Well, where is your responsibility? If you think that highly of a woman's womb, then why would you be party to defiling it?"

Then I started to think about what he was saying. . . . . . . and to some extent I had to agree.  We (women) have compromised our values, allowed men to disrespect and use us, conformed to the world and become the weaker sex.  Oh you don't think so?  Explain this to me then, why is it that a man can manipulate us into giving up a part of ourselves that we can not get back?  Why is that we will actually compete on some level for a man's attention?  Why is that we allow men, who have not earned the right, to be King of the Throne? 

Whether many of us are unwilling to admit it, we (majority of women) are responsible for the state we are in when it comes to how we relate to men.  What is happening is this:  You have a collection of women who have an issue with being alone and are willing to submit to a man who is unworthy.  And when you give a man that kind of power over you without just cause, you take part in creating a man who will think like a King but not behave like one.  When you look up KING it says "a paramount chief or one that holds a preeminent position" and I am sure that many of these men do not qualify.

See in the past, I played a part in creating a man with this false sense of dominion.  There is no reason why a man should view women in such a way like this man does.  Especially since it was a WOMAN that brought him into this world.  And it is this same man, who has found a "good woman", decided to turn from his ways and settle down.  If he represents the way a majority of men think, it is going to be interesting to see the mentality of new generation of men.  

But ladies there is hope.  The one thing that my last relationship showed me is this: There is a man who is wiling to treat you like a woman. . . not his personal freak, not his trophy but his QUEEN. He will love you and do what it takes to be worthy of the Throne.  So lose this idea that you have to deal with FOOLISHNESS just so you do not have to be alone and please make that man SHOW you that he is worthy to be a KING in your life.

Sidenote, I leave you with this.  My uncle use to always say, "Animals have more sense than people sometimes."  Now ask yourself, when do you ever see a female compete or attract a mate??  I'll wait for it.

If you are interested in checking out the vlog here is the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HP86xnwX6Ps&feature=youtu.be

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Relationship Deficient (Post Vlog: MEN 101)

So today I watched an interesting vlog about men.  In this vlog, he discussed that most men (not all) seek to obtain success before committing to a woman.  I propose the question: Can a man reach success with a woman?  I find it interesting that one of the points he made is that women lose focus of what they desire because of the man they acquire or as he put it so eloquently, "falls in love".  It is an extremely hard concept for me to grasp because I can't recall putting a man before my own success or desire.  What is even more interesting to me is that "other men" will attain a relationship and in due time reach a level of success.
Speaking from my own experience, I typically avoid men who are too wound up in reaching success.  Only due to the fact that this man has become (for a lack of better words) obsessed with this idea.  I have met someone before that I encouraged to continue to reach for his goals and did not deter from my own objectives, but ultimately no matter where I was professionally, mentally, spiritually, etc he chose to go his own way.  I honestly think that the root of the problem has more to do with this ideal that women are a deterrent to success and that a man does not feel comfortable attaining a woman without a proper "offer".
What stuns me is that some men can not see the damage that they do to women on a grand scale?  Because of this attitude there are single mothers who were with these men on their journey to success that were left to the wayside, women who have developed a very similar attitude to obtain their success over a successful relationship, young women who have become scorn because some young man decided that she loved him too much, etc.  So when he reaches his "success" he has this same pool of women to pick from and he finds that he is coming up empty handed because these women have dealt with this pedigree of men.
What is even more interesting to me, is that we have a pool of examples that show us that relationships that can sustain through struggle and reach a level of success without this notion of "doing it by myself" but chose to lean to our own understanding.  My deeper question is: What is the point of all of this success?  I'll give you a minute.
In my case, I strive to put myself in a position to sustain a peaceful lifestyle and maybe have a family of my own.  I don't know about the rest of you but what is the point of reaching said "success" if you don't have anyone to share it with?  I'll let you marinate.
I also want to point out an interesting factor.  Success is a very relative term.  How a person defines success can be molded by many things.  So if your definition changes, then what?  What if your success lied in joining with someone else?  So the question becomes what is really important to you?
When I was faced with another individual who was dead set on reaching success and wanted me to hang around so that he could have a place-filler, I politely objected and moved around.  Unfortunate for him, once he reached his level of success and realized that he wanted to be committed to me I had decided otherwise (SOL).  Not being spiteful but realizing that I was not important to him, because if I was he would not have let me go.  And he would have known I would never deterred him from reaching success.


Here is the link for the vlog if you are interested

Men 101- Sean Wilson Vlog http://thirty86.com/blog/?p=7133